Monday, 27 May 2013

Potty Training and a Party

I used to think potty training was easy, I have potty trained children when I worked in nursery and have potty trained my daughter but this little angel is my toughest challenger yet!

The problem is not that he can't use the potty, it's more that he only wants to use it when he is in a good mood or wants to show off.  I need to get some tips to get him out of nappies and into big boy pants. 

It probably doesn't help that we've been out and about quite a bit recently but I suppose he has to get used to using the loo in different environments.

As soon as potty training is over it's new carpets for the house, a perfect excuse to give it a mini make over!

We went to a party yesterday for his 2 year old friends and it was great to watch him run around and enjoy the company of the other children. And the teen did an excellent job of keeping an eye on him whilst mummy chatted with the grown ups.

Saturday, 25 May 2013

Stress Free

I don't know what my problem is but for the last few days I have been absolutely exhausted.  I can't blame the little man or the princess, they have been fabulous at going to bed and not waking up too early.  I can't blame being stressed because right now I'm reasonably stress free and happy.  I can't even blame over stimulation as I have made sure to keepdays free purely to relax. I'm eating healthy-ish, I'm drinking plenty of water but I'm still soooooo tired!

I had intended to write about the awful chat up lines but I've been faced with over the last couple of weeks but in all reality they were so bad I've erased them from my memory bank, either that or I'm too tired to think about them!  Thank goodness my mother will be visiting soon, I need a break.

Wednesday, 22 May 2013

Drink Up!

It's that time again for the sticky fingers link up and this week the topic is 'drink'.  I've been trying to she'd a couple of pounds and tone up my mum tum so my breakfast has turned into this...

Body by vi shake with fresh strawberries

Though on the odd occasion I fit in some of this...

Goodies from Guanabara
For more juicy pics head over to 'The Gallery' be warned it could get a little fruity ;)

Tuesday, 21 May 2013

Modern Dads

On Saturday I took the opportunity to kill two birds with one stone and do something fun with the children whilst networking.  We got ready (we being Daniel, Tianna, Ella and I) and after meeting up with my big sister Kimmi, made our way to the CVA centre in West Croydon.

We were attending a Fun day.  The fun day was to raise money for Modern Dads Magazine to print their first edition.  We met with the founders Shaun and Danielle, who were busy hosting the event and making sure the children were having fun.

The event was small but what really made it lovely was the warm and welcoming atmosphere created by the hosts and those working with them.  Even all the children in attendance we well mannered and willing to interact with the others.

At the moment I'm all about helping those who try to help others no matter how big or small their efforts.  We can do so much to change and better our communities by just reaching out and I applaude those who do their bit.

To find out more about Modern Dads Magazine visit their facebook page  and send them a message.

On another note I have my own event coming up very soon.  Me and the WKYW team are holding a budgeting event, it's not part of our usual program but we have enlisted some great speakers to come along and provide useful insight into budgeting, business start up and network marketing.  Best of all it's free! Find out more here.

Just in case you are wondering this is not a sponsored post x

Sunday, 19 May 2013

Falling on Deaf Ears

Most of you who know me, either through my blog or in real life, know that I try to stay positive even when in the most difficult of positions.  I try to stay patient even when people or situations are grating on my nerves.  I try to be there to support those around me that need it.  However the last week or so has been extremely taxing on my emotional state of mind.

I feel as though the things I am saying are falling on deaf ears.  The words from my mouth are being changed to meet how another person thinks and relayed back as my words... That probably sounds very confusing so I apologise. 

I started this blog as an outlet for my thoughts but I do sometimes hold back because I don't like upsetting people and I've realised that this is something I do a lot.  If I know a person is sensitive or resilient to my opinion, I hold back.  If I know that everything I say seems to touch a nerve, I hold back.  And sometimes I'm holding back so much that I just stop talking.

My mother taught me through the way she raised me that my brothers and I were ALWAYS a priority.  My mum was always there when I was growing up.  She worked when we were at school but was home when we were at home, she made time for her friends but that time included her children, or she would have friends over when we were asleep.  She didn't make us slot in around her life, she made her life slot in around us.  Now that we are adults she does her thing, and has her time.  If I was to choose someone to model my life against it wouldn't be Sir Richard Branson with all his billions, or the 'brand' that is Oprah Winfrey, it would be my mother.  A kind, generous loving example of a woman who would give up her last pennies to make sure her children have everything they needed.  It's not that I don't want to make money, believe me I do, but that desire comes after the desire to give my children the love and time that they need.

Nursery will soon come and give me a break but for now my work will have to fit around my children.  Understand it or not, that's the way it is.

Wednesday, 15 May 2013

It's in the bag!

The topic for The Gallery this week is 'new' and unlike Tara I have been a naughty mummy.  Rather than investing time or money in a new activity for my children I have instead idulged in a new handbag. So here it is

Some might think I'm mad, did I really just post a picture of a bag!  The truth is the bag is the first real thing I've purchased for myself in a while.  With the children always needing something new ; new shoes, new clothes, a new book for school or a new gift for a friends party, I seem to have become a take back queen in all things bought for mummy.  Just this week I exchanged an item I had brought online for myself from M&S with two shirts for the little one.

I don't resent it for a second, I like my two to have everything they need, but once in a while I treat myself to something new, something just for me, even if the little one did make me spill my coffee on it the day after I brought it!

Join in and link your newness on The Gallery, don't forget to check out the other posts x

Monday, 13 May 2013

Alien Helper

Technology has failed me again!

There I was happily tapping away at the laptop when all of a sudden the screen went black.  It now stubornly refuses to turn on, but stares at me blankly as though it doesn't recognise the stare I'm giving it.  That is much like the behaviour I get from the children sometimes.  The little one will look at me blankly when I ask him to put his toys away as if to say,  "Come on mummy raa raa the noisy lion talks more sense than you do."

If that wasn't bad enough, the big one believes that when I ask her to bring down her washing I only mean the last thing she wore, rather than the whole bag full that she's rifled through trying to find her favourite top to wear to her dads!

On a more positive note I had a really nice weekend.  Daniel had another go at finger painting on saturday morning.   He still isn't a fan of getting his fingers dirty but he gave it a go before finding one of his sisters pens to use as a paint brush, sorry princess x


After that I made preparations for my  our girls night out.  This was a night out all about taking a break from kids from projects, and for my sister and my best friend , from men.  I must say I am very lucky to have princess's dad to help out now and again :)


You'll have to excuse him he doesn't want to be identified because the aliens may take him back to his planet ;)



All in all I had a wonderful weekend and the house to myself until picking up the children Sunday afternoon.  Lots of food good music and dancing but I will fill you in on the venue another time.  For now I'm off to scream at the laptop as writing this whole post on the mobile was not fun at all!!!

Friday, 10 May 2013

No Tears Today

The pattern of my days really change when we are trying to set up a workshop, it's a juggling act of doing the daily tasks alongside the work tasks.  Today started well, after having my bed to myself for a whole week (little man has taken to going to bed with his big sis)  I woke up feeling revived.

My first objective for the day was to get little man feed and ready then sort myself out to go and post a package and pick up some shopping.  For once breakfast time went as it should, little man built aimpromptu tower out of medicine bottles showing very good skill (will add pics tomorrow) and then 
he let me get ready with very little fuss.  After breakfast (for me a shake) it was off to the CVA to drop in our funding application.

Whilst waiting for the receptionist to find the right person to give the application to, a guy came in with his partner and child to talk about his project.  He handed me a flyer for his upcoming fun day and I couldn't help overhearing as he spoke more about his project. I did some research and found that his website is still in construction but his page on facebook has been started.  From what I grasped he is working on a magazine for the young and modern dad, trying to provide young fathers with support and tools needed to be a father. With 35% of children born to fathers under 30 in 2011 this is something needed.  As a society we do tend to focus more on the needs of the mother and though this is a changing trend there is still a lot more that can be done.

After that I went to work with my sister we typed up our planning whilst the boys played.  For the first time in ages they actually played together really nicely, today there were no tears.

I had cooked a big dinner yesterday so i knew there was no cooking to be done tonight.  I love days like this when 
everything that needs doing gets done and I can return home and relax with a good book or a pen in my hand.

Unfortunately my laptop is playing up again so I'll add some relevant pictures when I can but for now I will leave you with two little faces that always make me smile.

Wednesday, 8 May 2013

The Four F's

The theme for the gallery this week is 'The Weekend'.  When I worked a 'nine to five' job the weekend would be either the time for preparing for the next working week or time to relax a bit before going back to work.  In the school holidays however the weekend meant partying or road trips to anywhere the wind blew.

Now that the sun is out,I've matured a lot and no longer have a 'nine to five' the weekend happens whenever there is a spare moment and for me it consists of the four F's Fun, Family, Friends and Food (far too much of the last F most of the time!)

So here is my pic stitch of some of the best 'weekends' I've had in the last few years with SOME of the people I love the most.

Head over to 'The Gallery' check out some others and add your own x

Tuesday, 7 May 2013

3 Slices of Cake on The BBQ

I was supposed to start a diet yesterday forgetting it was a bank holiday... Epic fail.  I was invited to a BBQ and ate through a large cheese burger then rice & peas and chicken.  If that wasn't enough I went home and had 3 small slices of chocolate cake (as if them being small makes a difference to the fact there were three slices!) followed by a slice of angel cake.

So today, Tuesday.  I started again and this morning I had a vi shake that tasted great and I'm looking forward to dropping some pounds.  I think my body needs to get used to the idea of breakfast as I'm always so busy sorting Daniel that I don't usually have more than a couple of crackers or anything quick, easy and full of calories, so this was definitely a big change.

I then went to meet for a play day.  It's been a little while since I met up with Sim so we took the children to the park and Daniel got to play with her lovely miracle babies.  They are referred to as miracle babies as she was told it was impossible for her to have children, but that's her story to tell.

Daniel & Twins

Sim & Daniel

It was lovely watching our three play so nicely together, Daniel however is so used to doing his own thing that he didn't stay with the group for long.

Little man leading the group

We went back to Sims for lunch which consisted of pasta with tuna and kidney beans, that's healthy isn't it?  I'm really going to have to start calorie counting or something, I'm no good with food :). So tomorrow I'll try again, a vi shake for breakfast another for lunch and goodness knows what for dinner!  Wish me luck.

I'm also about to start insanity workout, if anyone has tried it let me know your experience x

Sunday, 5 May 2013

A Puddle With a Voice

The way you are raised and the situations you are placed in as a child can really shape who you become as an adult.  I was only four when I came to this country to join my parents and my then one year old brother.

One of my earliest memories is of starting school, I was surrounded by children and other adults that didn't speak the way I spoke, and I was afraid.  I stood painting at the easel wanting to go to the toilet but too scared to ask, so nervous that my strong Bajan accent wouldn't be  understood.  Needless to say I didn't make it to the toilet but stood in embarrassed silence with a small puddle beneath my feet,  the puddle spoke for me.  I remember being taken into the bathroom and changed into a ladybird print pair of underwear, being told that it was ok to ask.  At the time I must have thought, yes it would be ok to ask if I were at home, it would be ok to ask if I sounded like you, but I'm far from home and I sound like me, so it's not ok to ask. 

I never did ask, that day by wetting myself I had learned where the toilet was without asking, so the next time I just walked to the toilet without a word to anyone.  I wish someone had taken the time then to explain to me that my voice was special because it was a part of who I am, a part of my culture and a link to my family back home (Barbados).

Until recently I took that attitude into my adult life, I would make a mistake and learn from it rather than ask for the fear of sounding stupid.  I would stay quiet in large group situations because I didn't want anyone to misunderstand me and I would keep my ideas and opinions pretty much to myself (only sharing with those closest to me.)

Yesterday I proved to myself that I could not only ask questions, but could communicate my ideas well, be listened to and understood.  I attended the ABCD ideas fair and shared our teams ideas for further Women Know Your Worth projects.  Our ideas were met with a positive and encouraging response, we will now be applying for funding for our community project and are excited about the future of our cause.

I am really enjoying this phase of my life, no longer a twenty something and awkward confused in my own body, trying to fit in with those around me.  I'm thirty something and loving the me I have become and embracing the whole of me, claiming back my identity rather than being the shadow of those around me.

Is this what happens as you get older?

Friday, 3 May 2013

What I'd Do For A Muffin :)

In between lots of writing for the different projects I have going at the moment I've managed to fit in some fun with the family.  On Monday my sister and I took the train up to Balham, little man in tow.  

After sorting out a bit of official stuff, a lovely little cafe called Bertie & Boo caught my eye, and we decided to stop in for a cuppa and a cake.  The cake I brought cost about £2.55, actually it was a chocolate muffin, though I wasn't too impressed with the price at first, after I took my first bite I didn't mind so much having spent the money on it!  It was delicious!

I left my camera at home so didn't get a chance to take any photo's but my sister took a lovely one of all the cupcakes on offer.  Mine was the oh so chocolaty one right at the back, whilst my sister opted for one of the ones at the front which surprisingly cost a little more at £2.75

I do wish we'd taken photos of the actual cafe.  It was one of those places that brought you back to your childhood, took you on an ocean adventure and still allowed you the sophistication of a 'grown up' social spot.  Old school style tables and music from the swinging sixties (said as if I was there,) gave the place that fun feeling that you look for when out with the kids.

We really must go back when we have both the boys with us so they can play in the soft play area.

Our Youngest

As well as that I took a trip into Leicester Square with my Prince and Princess yesterday as The Teen Princess had a casting up there.  Although we are not Star Trek fans we couldn't help but being drawn in by the media hype surrounding the premiere of the newest movie and we were just in time to see Zoe Saldana arrive looking lovely as ever.

Captured from the screen as we weren't close enough for a 'real' pic
After squeezing in a trip round M&M world we headed back to good old South London.

We stopped at an all you can eat buffet and I'm very proud to say that a lady came up to me and said, "let me give you a touch because your hair looks amazing!"

Go me, Afro loving smiles, as I've worked hard maintaining it :)

And just in case you're wondering this is NOT a sponsored post.

More Pics :)

Wednesday, 1 May 2013

Me, Me Me, Me Me

It's been oh so long since I joined in with The Gallery because life seems to have become very busy. Trust me to join in with it when the theme is self portraits.

 I am not apposed to taking pictures of myself, far from it, I actually love a self portrait.  The problem is I usually take the same photo up to 10 times to get it just right.  I think I may be my own biggest critic, the list of reasons to delete a photo usually goes like this; my eyes aren't open, my smile isn't real enough, the camera is too close.  So for this gallery post I'm going to post three photos taken first time, no repeats no second guessing just the raw untamed close up reality that is me and I'm afraid I don't wear make up so if you don't like natural images look away NOW!

Taken on ipad 2 front camera, not so good

Taken on Canon ixus 230 hs

Canon ixus 230 hs

On another note my sister Kimmi has caught the blogging bug and is now blogging at